In the “Thanksgiving Birthday” and “A Full Moon in Each Eye” blog posts, I said I planned to ask people what they loved and appreciated about me. I’ve been thinking that you might enjoy hearing some of the things people said. And I’d enjoy telling you. 🙂
In case you might be wondering, when I make public the experiences I have with others, I ask their permission in advance. I want to make sure that they’re okay with me publishing our experience, out of a respect for their privacy.
My 21 year old niece said, “You are not a superficial person. You’re a very deep person. You speak about what matters.”
My son-in-law said, “Teresa, the way you listen to everyone makes them feel important.”
One of my friends wrote, “Teresa: I love you and appreciate you for your: courage, loving nature, staunch advocacy of the truth, and your absolute sweet heart.”
My son’s girlfriend wrote, “You are such a loving and caring person, and I truly love and appreciate everything you do for me and your family. I love our coffee dates. It’s like having another mother in my life, and I really appreciate that.”
My sister-in-law told me, “You’re not judgmental, and because you aren’t judgmental, I feel like I can be myself around you.”
Another friend said, “Appreciating your full-hearted honesty and your deep and easeful vulnerability.”
With all of these folks and more, I’ve been experiencing a kind of love fest. A channel of love opened between me and those who acknowledged and loved me. I have the sense that our bond deepened in both directions.
It felt a little like being re-acquainted with my essential qualities. Like in “The Original You” blog post where I relayed the story of members of an African village who remember the original qualities of their fellow villagers – even when the individual has forgotten – and remind them by singing their unique Bembe soul song to them in times of need.
So why don’t we ask each other or tell how we love each other more often? For me, it’s probably been fear of being hurt. Will they have anything to say when I ask? When it comes to asking for love – being dependent – most of us have old scars of heartbreak. So we play it safe and protect our hearts.
It is true that protecting our hearts may seem safer but it will never give us the love we want.
How would it be for you to step into a very alive place and dare to open the channel of love between you and others – to receive our deepest longing – to know that we’re lovable and loved?
In peace and love, Teresa